Reflection #3

I liked Jordan's post last week about lying and whether if it's okay to lie and at what point you have to draw the line. What I find interesting about this topic is be loyal? Or be honest? I was always raised to tell the truth no matter what the situation is and good things will come. I was also raised to be loyal and keep those that you love close to you.

Being honest sometimes can be tough can't it? If your friend comes up to you with a terrible haircut, and you both know it looks terrible, your not going to tell them it looks bad, your going to lie and say, no it looks fine! We do this as humans because we don't want to hurt other peoples feelings. Now I know some people say never lie no matter what the situation is because it will just cause you to continue to lie and sooner or later you'll do it without even noticing. I don't necessarily agree with this because I feel that if you are a true good person than you know when its appropriate to tell a fib.

Now being loyal is a different concept. If you are truly loyal to someone than you will do anything for that person and you will always tell them what you are thinking and what the truth is-right? Well I know their have been times when I have been loyal to someone, maybe about a secret or something, and I spilled the beans. I just couldn't hold it in. It is interesting because deep down I knew consciously I did something wrong, but maybe I told someone else because I didn't want that person to get hurt. Is that right or wrong for me to have done?

I find these two topics very interesting because we as humans deal with these types of situations all of the time, daily, without even noticing. For some of us, lying is something we do all of the time because we know nothing better. I went to high school with a kid who lied all of the time. He would just make up the most far fetched stories that no one would ever believe. Everyone knew he constantly lied. He would lie about the smallest things that would just question me, why even bother lying about this when it doesn't mean anything? Was it because he had gotten so immune to it and couldn't stop from doing it? Was it truly his fault, or was he truly trying to hurt someones feelings when he lied-I mean if he couldn't control it, it's not his fault right? Then i figured out the biggest factor that caused him to lie. He tried fitting in with everyone and had to be popular. He wasn't trying to be mean to others purposely, he just wanted to be friends with everyone. So some day when you wake up keep track of all the times you make up the littlest fib-it will amaze you. Sometimes we do it because its the easiest way out of a situation or its a fast answer.